I always thought there where two kinds of people – those with and those (like me) without confidence. Those WITH confidence seemed more genuine.
I never thought confident/genuine people liked me, maybe it was because I ‘felt’ fake. I was definitely not my self – I didn’t know how. I hadn’t even heard the word authentic.
Do you recognise the ‘feeling’ when you ‘think’ someone doesn’t like you?
Here are a few questions – to myself – I’ve been pondering.
- What makes me ‘think’ this person doesn’t like me?
- What is it about me, with this person, that I don’t like?
- What triggers the feeling of not being liked by this person?
- Am I giving this person my power?
- What persona do I give this person? – How do I see her or him?
This can relate to me putting the person in high esteem and thus feeling less than them.
- What can I do – right now – to release the uncomfortable feeling of not being liked?
I think the answer is in becoming present in the moment – allowing myself to feel all the feelings coming up – and connecting to Source Energy. – I knew nothing about this some decades ago when I would just spin into negative emotions.
- How important is it – to me – that this person likes me? (If it’a boss, my job could depend on it.)
This feeling of not being liked – where does it come from?
Triggers & Intuition
If it’s a Trigger, what can I learn from this person?
If intuition, am I being guided away from this person? Or am I being guided towards a more authentic me?
This was a big thing for me. I worked so hard at being liked. If other people liked me it meant I could like myself. To be liked meant acceptance. Not to be accepted meant rejection and rejection could lead to abandonment.
All of this is coming up in the book chapters that I’m working on this morning. At the time I was unaware of self-help work, most people where in the 1970s and ’80s, and my normal reaction would have been to either try and please or shrink into silence. The idea that we all have different views of the world had never entered my mind.
To be truly liked and loved, one must first like and love oneself.
Oh how far we come when we examine this life of ours.
Much Love and Light
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